Okay, there have definitely been some conflicts between these two very large and in charge little people. They both like to tell other people what to do. They both like to "help," which often means they are in each others way or competing. My first assessment was that they are very much alike, but I have been changing my mind.
They might have been very much alike if they weren't raised in two very different worlds, under horribly different circumstances.
The trouble comes with the fact that they look at each other and see a physical peer, but they are very far from being emotional peers. Ben is 7 with a lifetime of care support, education and an exceptional brain. He is in many ways more mature than his years. Blessing is 8. Her mom died when she was 4 and she seems to have stalled at that age in many ways. She still sucks her thumb, has little emotional breakdowns and is very needy. There was not a lot of ways for her to heal emotionally in a home with 20+ kids at all times and no adult that was interested in her particular well being.
Now, I still have high hopes for their relationship. In the morning when Ben leaves for school, they always say I love you and good bye to each other and they include each other in their prayers. I think that things will calm down when they are both secure with themselves and their individual places in our family.
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